So this is what is going on at our house today. MOPING! I am moping because this "new diet" that the nutritionist put me on sucks. I am still way tired and I have to think about how many starches and proteins everything is, what I can and can't eat together etc.... Whitney is moping because she is grounded. We are usually not big on groundings, but Whitney has started saying some pretty mean things to Hannah to get Hannah to do what she wants her to do. Last Monday we had a family home evening about it and decided to set some consequences.
Things went well all week until Sunday, Hannah came in crying(she cries with her whole body it is really sad.) Whitney said she was taking her off her friend list because she wouldn't clean up Whitney's half of the room. So she is grounded today. There is a gate between our yard and our neighbors behind us and she can see all her friends jumping on the tramp and having a great time and she is so sad. She is promising she will never do it again (which we have heard over and over again) and I really want to cave. It is breaking mine and Tony's hearts, but we feel like she needs to learn this lesson. 
Having never grown up with sisters I am just heartbroken that she would say these things to her little sister, most of the time they play really cute and love each other. Is this one of those girl things that I don't understand because I grew up with all boys?
Monday, June 9, 2008
MOPING
Posted by The Baros Family at 3:11 PM
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Aren’t girls absolutely vicious? Sometimes I am glad that I don’t have sisters. I think this is something that she will definitely grow out of, so don’t fret.
Whatever you do, DON”T CAVE! Not that I know everything, and am the child psychologist of the year, but kids NEED consequences. The reason why a kid does something over and over again is because the parent doesn’t follow through with what you say you will do. So if you say it, then do it!!
I learned this first hand with my 2nd grade class, and boy, I whipped those kids into shape. They LOVED me, and I always followed through with what I said I was going to do. Now, I know that being a school teacher isn’t the same as a mom, obviously I didn’t love the kids like a parent would, but I definitely learned that kids need boundaries, consequences, and the second you back out of something that you said you would do—that’s when they know they will be able to get out of it again.
BUT, maybe my outlook will change once I am a mother, so I really have no business telling you how to raise your family.
HOLY COW!! I didn't realize how long my comment was. SORRY!!
I totally agree with you, Jeni! And I also can't believe how mean and vicious girls are. My girls don't have a chance against me, though. I have ZERO tolerance for Ashley beating on Megan. I can remember my older sister beating me up and I get soooooooo angry when I see Ashley doing it. Poor girl - she has experienced my wrath once too many times. I think sisters should take care of each other. Girls are smart and manipulative too. Sometimes I think Ashley is genuinely sorry and then I remember she is just manipulating me.
I think sisters can be pretty mean to each other. I grew up with just brothers too but i will never forget watching my friend chasing her sister around the house with a pair of scissors trying to stab her and pulling each others hairout. They are the best of friends now though:)
I struggle with my girls too sometimes. It feels like it is a constant battle to keep the peace, and then other times they are the best of friends. Me and my sisters fought too, but you know what? You grow out of it and become the best of friends. Keawe's four sisters did the same. You are doing the right thing though by stepping in with consequences, it's the only way we learn. Tough love!
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